the problem is not that women are 'too polite', the problem is that men are held to a lower standard of behavior and, despite that, still rewarded with more power. the solution for women's empowerment is not to behave more like men in order to gain power (that works in the short run for an individual woman in a man's world). the solution is to raise the standard for men to respect the feminine and acknowledge the value of feminine work in a way that offers economic advantage, security and other forms of power.