Sunday, August 30, 2015

with great power comes great stupidity.  it's like privilege comes with blinders and you have to actively tell the salesperson no thank you.
http://jobs.aol.com/articles/2014/10/06/gillian-robespierre-shane-jones-day-jobs-career-advice/

Thursday, August 20, 2015

Romance flow chart.

Tuesday, August 18, 2015

why is my life a full time job.

Friday, August 14, 2015

all the gunk that has built up in my sinuses from 10+ years in the pits of LA is melting.
alhamdulillah i'm not with a scornful person who doesn't listen and who's too cool for school.
all the time i waste on hope.
http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/10-habits-practice-achieve-emotional-maturity-h2l/

Thursday, August 13, 2015

fuck hollywood and it's white supremacist capitalist patriarchy

http://www.buzzfeed.com/kateaurthur/rose-mcgowan-is-starting-a-revolution#.bnPwO3RZNW
Ya Allah, please remove me from the clutches of spiteful people.
http://www.entrepreneur.com/slideshow/246749

Tuesday, August 11, 2015

i thought he was different.  but he's like any other guy who can't handle rejection.
Idiot doesn't know 75% of women in prison are there for self defense against abusive significant other.  Also hasn't heard of Marissa Alexander.  So the woman's options are to go to jail for protecting herself or get killed and blamed for not protecting herself.

http://jezebel.com/sheriff-domestic-violence-victim-couldve-prevented-her-1723445010?utm_campaign=socialflow_jezebel_facebook&utm_source=jezebel_facebook&utm_medium=socialflow
http://ideas.time.com/2013/06/03/why-we-should-read-literature/
http://qz.com/474766/the-biggest-mistakes-people-make-when-choosing-a-life-partner/


'And when you choose a life partner, you’re choosing a lot of things, including your parenting partner and someone who will deeply influence your children, your eating companion for about 20,000 meals, your travel companion for about 100 vacations, your primary leisure time and retirement friend, your career therapist, and someone whose day you’ll hear about 18,000 times.'
'when it comes to dating, society frowns upon thinking too much about it, instead opting for things like relying on fate, going with your gut, and hoping for the best. If a business owner took society’s dating advice for her business, she’d probably fail, and if she succeeded, it would be partially due to good luck—and that’s how society wants us to approach dating.' (unless you're talking about more traditional matchmaking scenarios involving aunties and such, then the business aspect of it is just presumptuous posing as rational, both systems are clueless and neglect individual compatibility).
bleh

http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2015/09/the-coddling-of-the-american-mind/399356/
http://www.clickhole.com/article/8-experiences-everyone-has-birthright-2862
http://www.theguardian.com/music/2015/aug/11/squadgoals-whitesplaining-black-culture-taylor-swift?CMP=fb_us
there is a difference between a conversation and someone letting you speak so that they can continue talking.
http://pdx.eater.com/maps/portland-restaurants-best-new-cheap-eats
http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/codependency-anorexia-starving-yourself-from-love-fiff/

Monday, August 10, 2015

http://heatherplett.com/2015/03/hold-space/

http://heatherplett.com/2015/03/how-to-hold-space-for-yourself-first/
France is downright provincial for Chinese billionaires.
why do guys say they want girlfriends when their behavior says they want an appliance with holes to fuck?
http://www.buzzfeed.com/jarrylee/tinder-for-elites?utm_term=.bupX0OOap#.jf32gEmp87
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lLgIIjnpZyU
http://www.businessinsider.com/pyramid-of-luxury-brands-2015-3
Anita's Law is an internet law that exists because of the work of Anita Sarkeesian, who spends a lot of time talking about the way women are portrayed in popular media. It states: Online discussion of sexism or misogyny quickly results indisproportionate displays of sexism and misogyny.[6] This exists because Anita is a feminist who usually focuses on how women are either not shown as advancing plot on their own, not shown at all, or shown in highly stereotypical ways. And, as unsurprisingly, the responses to her were often incredibly over the top, including threats of violence.
The tranquilizing drug of gradualism - MLK

Sunday, August 9, 2015

This Italian restaurant plays country music and serves gluten free pasta.  #portland

Garcia Rose.

Saturday, August 8, 2015

http://www.ebay.com/gds/9-Kingdoms-You-Can-Buy-On-Ebay-/10000000205605849/g.html?roken2=ta.pVGhyaWxsaXN0
beard scraggles of a lazy shaver.
old truism.  it hurts to care about someone who doesn't care about you.

Friday, August 7, 2015

Nothing bw san fran - redding - shasta - douglas county

The first dust devil and the wild turkey

Evergreens so vivid subhanAllahs overflow from one's lips

Water = jobs! / growing food does not equal wasting water

Midnight barons

100 miles of alhamdulillah

Narcissists: ppl who don't have a fucking clue how to listen and learn.

I'm at a gas station in Eugene,  Oregon and it's playing 'boogie oogie oogie' by my neighbor in Arcadia whose $5 skirt I bought at her yard sale.

Oregon: where I nearly get into an accident bc driver too polite and has to let me pass.  Where radio plays weezer followed by gun commercial.  Where my lungs thank me and the earth and music see me : p.

Thursday, August 6, 2015

http://www.ebaumsworld.com/pictures/view/84683781/
http://www.libraryofarabicliterature.org/books/
"

“COMPLIMENTS THAT AREN’T ABOUT PHYSICAL APPEARANCE
1) You’re empowering.
2) I like your voice.
3) You’re strong.
4) I think your ideas/beliefs matter.
5) I’m so happy you exist.
6) More people should be listening to what you have to say.
7) You’re a very warm hearted person.
8) It’s nice seeing such kindness.
9) You’re very down to earth.
10) You have a beautiful soul.
11) You inspire me to become a better person.
12) Our conversations bring me a lot of joy.
13) It’s good to see someone care so much.
14) You’re so understanding.
15) You matter a lot to me.
16) You’re important even if you don’t think so.
17) You’re intelligent.
18) Your passion is contagious.19) Your confidence is refreshing.
20) You restore my faith in humanity.
21) You’re great at being creative.
22) You’re so talented at ____.
23) I don’t get tired of you the way I get tired of other people.
24) You have great taste in ___.
25) I’m happy I stayed alive long enough to meet you.
26) I wish more people were like you.
27) You’re so good at loving people.”
-hereislight
(feel free to add to the list)
painting by Alex aka Strain

"
Met housemate's friend. She smelled fresh and clean straight out of a shower. Was glad I don't live in the 1690s on pirate ship.
i feel like a millennial poser because i'm from the early batch of that group, the kind that's predominantly apathetic and meh and listens to a lot of 90s music.‪#‎confessions‬
http://www.alternet.org/media/lena-dunham-white-privilege-and-myth-anything-possible?sc=fb

puke

Wednesday, August 5, 2015

http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/10-habits-couples-strong-healthy-relationships-shesaid/
Why is it that people who are underprivileged can endure all sorts of indignities and assaults on their self worth while carrying on all normal, but people in power who are confronted with the fact that they have power will shatter, deny, retaliate because their ego can't handle it? what is it with power that blinds people to responsibility.
https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/extreme-self-care-for-modern-ladies?utm_source=vicefbus
http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/8-toxic-phrases-shatter-relationships/

Tuesday, August 4, 2015

I spent so much time trying to be invisible I forgot how to be seen.
Do I want to support him financially and be made to feel unloved so he can make his art so I can feel a little bit better?  the answer is no.  Because the cost is my own mental health and creativity.
http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/28-things-long-time-married-couples-want-know-kt/

Monday, August 3, 2015

I sold my integrity before.  I'm not doing it again.
When you're about to embark on an incredible adventure, do you invite a piece of shit flake, or do you go it alone?

That question's for you, I already have my answer.
oh the people I'd like to tell to go suck a goats dick.
https://represent.us/action/thesolution/
http://www.nytimes.com/2015/08/02/opinion/sunday/were-making-life-too-hard-for-millennials.html?_r=0

http://www.buzzfeed.com/michaelblackmon/scumbag-baby-boomer-is-another-meme-that-will-enrage-millenn#.apNORrvPBe
I REALLY don't want to feel like prey today.  I REALLY don't want to feel like the other.  And I REALLY don't want to have to educate a lazy shit on why I even feel these things.

Sunday, August 2, 2015

I hate when some people realize something you've been telling them forever to be true is true, and act as if the whole world just realized it because they did, and then don't remember that you were the one saying it for ages and treat you like you don't really know that much or any more than they do.  The inability to recognize expertise is not impressive.  GO AWAY.
people oblivious to systems of abuse are targets for abusers, as well as their enablers, as well as the deniers that alienate people who try to make the system more just.

"Possible Scenarios of Situational Offenders:
They can be family members, teachers, coaches, babysitters, and most juvenile offenders. Examples:
A grandfather that never abused his own children, but sexually molested his grandchildren.
A teacher that seduced a student from class. 
A boy that sexually abused his sisters and her friends during a playdate.
A nanny that took photos of her sexually abusing a young child in her care and sent the photos to her boyfriend.
In these cases, the offenders did not 'seek out' an opportunity to abuse a child, but rather, found themselves in a situation that enabled them to abuse a child and took it. Sure - some predatory pedophiles may purposely seek such positions, but situational offenders do not. Grooming techniques may be used, but the basic foundation of trust - and most importantly, access, has already been established."

http://themamabeareffect.org/1/post/2015/06/think-all-child-molesters-are-pedophiles-think-again.html

Saturday, August 1, 2015

everybody who married their "that'll dos", I know who you are.