the kind of warmth that burns one part of your body and leaves the rest of you cold.

I like 90s music now that we're not stuck in the 90s.

why are people with narrower experiences than mine always trying to tell me how it is for everybody, as if they are the authority.

what is it with guys who think if they talk to a woman like she's dumb suddenly she'll forget that she's smart.

It's funny, as soon as a man sees a woman as a sexual being, he can't respect her ability to reason.  It's as if those two traits can't exist at the same time, in the same person.  And it becomes the woman's problem to deal with that because a man will just deny her observations as overreacting or crazy, because, again, he doesn't respect her ability to reason anymore.  Or rather, he doesn't want to deal with the inconvenience of a reasonable person resolving problems, because sex should be easy and uncomplicated, why is she making it complicated with all those thoughts, all those needs to be treated like, gasp, a person.

"If we're going to get any closer to "having it all" (or just "having a life") we need to ask men to drop both the gaslighting and the self-loathing and show up as adults."

http://jezebel.com/5923666/i-suck-how-guys-use-self-deprecation-against-you

It was so beautiful to see the sun-kissed southern california pacific from the sky merge into rugged mountain ranges, then become checkered brown and green farmlands, and then snowy mountaintops hugged by clouds, then disappear entirely under fog, and emerge again into the teals, maroons and deep greens of the pacific northwest.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cwgVUsvY9_0

I am my own romance.  I give people dreams they can never make a reality in the hope that their cumulative efforts make some sort of difference even if they fail to meet the ideal.

Conversations I don't ever want to have with a potential partner:
-whether #blacklivesmatter or #alllivesmatter
-whether it's ok to touch a woman (even "innocently" or "discreetly") without her enthusiastic consent
-whether communication and addressing problems is actually a thing that needs to happen regularly

Ppl who point to how lack of things working out for me in relationships might me my fault assume everyone entering relationships have an equally developed ability to handle ppl, problems, life.  And no most dudes I've known don't meet my abilities,  so no it's not me, it's them, and fuck u for not sticking by me either and assuming I don't know myself or have my shit together when u should be educating dudes including your sons and bfs and bros how to get have their shit together and be decent human beings.

Why do I always end up with dudes who try to take me down a peg when I demonstrate competence and not compromise how I want to be treated.

The more ppl u know, the more ppl who ask u to do things u don't have the time or energy to do.

I don't want the kind of pain that requires time and self-numbing to "resolve" them

It's hard to breathe bc it's hard to see.