Ppl who point to how lack of things working out for me in relationships might me my fault assume everyone entering relationships have an equally developed ability to handle ppl, problems, life.  And no most dudes I've known don't meet my abilities,  so no it's not me, it's them, and fuck u for not sticking by me either and assuming I don't know myself or have my shit together when u should be educating dudes including your sons and bfs and bros how to get have their shit together and be decent human beings.