handicapped parking sign
stop signs
-willful ignorance

the biker in his lane as it curved 'the biker moved'
-not taking responsibility

blaming someone else for things she's responsible for
pay credit card bills 'he said sth about paying it'
it's her bill...

the rat and the broken vase
the washer dryer even though winter is coming that doesnt get bought bc a $170 bidet is more urgent?

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when he says not to spend too much time with the handyman fixing things in the basement like a warning, when he already brings up divorce as a threat to keep her in line, when he flirts with everybody without repercussion and has attempted to sleep with ppl who are not his wife (this is confirmed), nobody says anything to him.  instead, he has them all wrapped around his little finger.  it is creepy the way everyone has over-enthusiastic things to say about what a great guy he is, from the bank teller at citizens to the indian chick who is my age.  note: when you hear this about some guy, run, run fast.  the way he controls her finances and makes her come off as irresponsible and putting such a burden on him.  what an incompetent burden, paying for the mortgage entirely for almost a decade.  it's a way to keep her in the dark, and control the narrative to make her feel bad so she doesn't question or challenge him.  he's the responsible, unappreciated caretaker for a frivolous, expensive wife who doesn't even cook for him.  and she does cook for him, all the damn time, and puts meals and tea on the table, only so he'll ignore it and walk out to go spend time with friends.  then come home when there's no food on the table and raise hell bc there's no food on the table waiting for him.  and no one can reproach him.  if he's asked to cover the food in the fridge, he won't.  he'll start yelling about being lectured at until you do it yourself.  he'll leave half eaten bread out in the open, and all kinds of food from time to time.  it doesn't matter how many times you tell him to put things away.  so then now there's a rat problem.  he yells about how she wastes money on rat poison now.

fuck allll this shit.

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he is like a spiteful pos that would burn the house down rather than let her have it.