https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cwgVUsvY9_0

I am my own romance.  I give people dreams they can never make a reality in the hope that their cumulative efforts make some sort of difference even if they fail to meet the ideal.

Conversations I don't ever want to have with a potential partner:
-whether #blacklivesmatter or #alllivesmatter
-whether it's ok to touch a woman (even "innocently" or "discreetly") without her enthusiastic consent
-whether communication and addressing problems is actually a thing that needs to happen regularly

Ppl who point to how lack of things working out for me in relationships might me my fault assume everyone entering relationships have an equally developed ability to handle ppl, problems, life.  And no most dudes I've known don't meet my abilities,  so no it's not me, it's them, and fuck u for not sticking by me either and assuming I don't know myself or have my shit together when u should be educating dudes including your sons and bfs and bros how to get have their shit together and be decent human beings.

Why do I always end up with dudes who try to take me down a peg when I demonstrate competence and not compromise how I want to be treated.

The more ppl u know, the more ppl who ask u to do things u don't have the time or energy to do.

I don't want the kind of pain that requires time and self-numbing to "resolve" them

It's hard to breathe bc it's hard to see.