I have little space in my heart for people who defend their idea of Islam above human rights, as if humans don't know their needs.

the problem is not that women are 'too polite', the problem is that men are held to a lower standard of behavior and, despite that, still rewarded with more power. the solution for women's empowerment is not to behave more like men in order to gain power (that works in the short run for an individual woman in a man's world). the solution is to raise the standard for men to respect the feminine and acknowledge the value of feminine work in a way that offers economic advantage, security and other forms of power.

guess what ladies, there's a kind of guy who is only 'feminist' bc he thinks it means he'll get laid (feminist = sexually accessible, easier than the 'prudes'). He is not a feminist and is not joking either. he's a disingenuous prick posing as an ally who wants to do none of the work and doesn't even acknowledge the actual problem, has no empathy for your struggles and will dismiss anything that actually requires self-reflection.

why would i want to be with someone who does not want to ask "how was your day?" because that conversation is 'boring'?

I love intersectionality. I love that it exists as a word (even though spell check redlines it). I love that ppl are calling others out on their shit and demanding their place at the table with their full identity and all the struggles that come with it. that's what commitment to diversity is, not some pansy-ass NPR lip service, moral pat yourself on the back, self congratulatory ideal one supposedly respects. The intersectional path forward is more uncomfortable and a lot more work, that's why it's more substantive, meaningful and long-lasting. So much more satisfying to talk about intersectionality. So sick of the era where celebrities hide their mixed or ethnic identities to be more marketable for the mainstream / have career longevity / not be pidgin-holed (norah jones is half indian ladies and gentleman, nelly furtado is portuguese, people, deal with it, you still like their music, you can handle their backgrounds, your minds won't explode, grow a little).

guys who are clueless about or dismiss age old mother-in-law / wife oppression and unpaid work women take upon themselves that is *necessary* but guys are too cool for school to do something that boring.

People who are so sensitive they stand in the way of their own growth.